妍倩_十大愿王 14_心得报告

什么是「生死」?

在还没有去印度尼西亚 苏拉威西之前， 我是要寻找 「生死」的答案。

生命的真正意义到底是什么？

到了托拉查的短短三天里， 看到在地球的另一边，住着一群人，拥有独特的「生死」观。在哪里死了的亲人，是不会立刻被处理的。 亡者不叫「死人」而是当成「病人」 来相伴生活，多年后才会举行盛大的葬礼。

如果不是亲身出席一个葬礼，是真的不可思议，当地的人把一个婆婆 （亡者）的遗体防腐在家中保存了十七年后的今天，才举行葬礼。

即便入葬，每隔三到五年，还会将逝者从棺材中取出，重新修整遗容，换上新衣，新帽，新手表。过后，来一张大合照，全家福。当地的人根本不会害怕或哭泣，也许他们已经明白生死是必然的。也要告诉全世界，他们过得很辛福快乐。虽然已经少了一个家中的成员，但是还是一样可以久久相聚一次。

也许每天都看到尸体和骨头，看了八天，回来以后，我的脑里因为有了之前的记忆，我竟然会看到四周围的人都是一幅幅活生生的骨头在我面前行走。心里忽然领悟到，我们人死后的样貌也没什么了不起的。

在还没有回国之前，我也体会到，写心得的重要性。无论一班朋友怎么劝，怎么催促或以异样的眼光看待我，都劝不动我。我还是选择每晚留在酒店房间里写心得报告，把我最近的心得经验与大家分享。连续三晚，一口气的写了三份心得报告。

真神奇！ 写完心得报告书，我的心也平静了下来，变得更加了解自己 为什么来到这个世界？ 时时刻刻告诉自己应该做什么，不应该做什么。继续向前走，自我超越，改造我的人生。不要等到呼着最后一口气的时候，还是迷迷糊糊的，不明不白的白过自己的人生，就走了。

加油！

【祝福你！就是这样踏踏实实地这样做，你就不会白过人生。】

妍倩《十大愿王11》心得报告

This video clip #11 is so useful for us to keep growing.

Last Friday aware that my client first time engaged another trainer (competitor).  Thereafter, I asked for client feedback about the training when I was at client premise.  The person that given me the feedback do not like me, and kept telling me lots of good things about the trainer, and bad things about myself.

Inside my heart, I felt uneasy as there are still other clients selected me as their Trainer every time. 

While receiving the feedback, I listened and tried to understand what actually went wrong with me.  Was the client not happy because of my training approach? Was it due to lack of my knowledge or skills when conducting training?  Was it due to not meeting training objectives at all?

After listened all constructive feedback, I walk to their office and sit down. Took out my diaries and started list down all feedback.  A bit upset, but I know this is the life journey. No matter how, I must accept first and then analyze whether valid or not. 

Finally list down my action plans. Kept telling myself: I must stay stronger. Decided to improve tomorrow training for another client.

【Appreciate the feedbacks and those who dislikes you, they showed you the way whenever you are in comfort zone. So, you change to make it better.】

妍倩《十大愿王12》心得报告

This video clip #12 made me think about the value and meaning of life. In other words, it also related to our death.

Last year and this year lost two friends. Never expect that both younger than me could pass away.

Last night when I was driving and then walking on the street, I noticed that human being are nothing much in this world. We are not great, but most of us think that we are great enough.

We could see everyone busy for :

·         Eating to live

·         Working to earn money

·         Spending money

·         Gossiping others people live

·         Family

·         Friend

·         Others

Thereafter, people happy temporarily and sad temporarily.  Finally, people death one day. All and whatever we have now, it definitely cannot take away.

Since learnt “Buddhist” teaching, recently everyday I ask this question to myself: “Why I am coming to this world?”  

By asking myself, I am more focus despite of my pretty tight schedule, and kept reminding myself that “time wait for no one”.

That’s the reason that I decided to transfer all my knowledge to two people who has no experience in ISO project. Hopefully both can use this useful knowledge to help others and “pass it on”.    “Pass it on” means keep transferring to someone without expects others return.

【This is important to make clear the reason you are coming to this world. You have to find it through your daily practicing and helping others】

妍倩《十大愿王 13》心得报告

Our mindset can be changed.



   When issues comes with people, I choose to set my believing system that “Everything happen must be a good reasons”



   I believe others have their reason not doing well. I accept the fate & quickly settle the issue first, instead of looking for someone fault and keep complaining to others.



   After settle the case, normally I shall list down the root cause & action plan in my diary, I appreciate all events happen on me, regardless good or bad things.





Besides believing system, I’m practice to use positive languages



Example : -



Negative languages                                        Positive languages



i) I cannot                                                         I can

ii) No time / Busy                                            I will find the time

iii) Wrong                                                         Good try



After using positive languages & stay positively, I’m becoming more happier, accept whatever happens & always court my blessings every day.





【When you are able to accept everything that happened and willing to change your mindset, this showed great improvement of letting go!!!】

妍倩《十大愿王 09》心得报告

Since learning Buddhist, I’m practicing 随喜功德。

·         Last time, I only give exact amount to everyone.

And now, I only give extra amount to anyone, including taxi driver as a token of appreciate for fetching me .

·         Before this, also not easy to let go/ forgive people especially when I found that they’re wrong.

And now, I started aware that my life is easy going if I forgive people & focus on others good point (instead of weak point )





   This year I delegated one urgent project to my consultant & ended up receiving client complaint about my consultant



   For one final follow up session, the situation was critical as my colleague still could not accept external auditor findings & not willing to assist client for some findings.



   As our timing was too close to the next audit & we must coach client to take action in order to close the case, so I decided to show my angriness during the meeting & make it clear to my consultant that we must quickly rectify the issues, instead of keep arguing.



   I knew my angriness would definitely hurt my consultant felling, especially said harsh words in front of client. But I need to do it in order to get things done within 2 working days.



   After 10 minutes, I decided to walk out from the meeting room & let my consultant to proceed with the follow up session. While I walk down to ground floor, I was regret & keep asking myself :  - Why I couldn’t manage myself just now ?

                            - Why I couldn’t say in a nice way ?

                            - Why I couldn’t be humored & let people work happily ?



   Word already said out & the situation was over. My journey could not reverse back & remind myself that next time I will handle myself well.



   After the incident, I also did not blame my consultant for not doing well on our project. The only thing that I can do is to accept the fact & kept moving.



Prepared by Lily Chee



27 Aug, 2019



【It is important that you clear that you are still unable to manage yourself in this current situation. Keep doing 108 bows and vow to change it.】

妍倩《十大愿王 05》心得报告

Today shared my Buddhist Program with one of my new friend & surprisingly that people could not see the benefit of teaching & self-reflection sharing report. After my sharing , the new friend given different perspective.



   Inside my heart , I accept other people to think in a different way. My mind is still peacefully and positively.



   Now only notice that if we are strong enough inside ourselves. We definitely won’t be easily influenced by others or hurt by others, especially different category people. Learn not to be too calculate on people’s word or action.



   Most importantly, I must understand what I am doing, stay focus and positively at all times.



【Yes, we accept them with different perspectives and keep practicing what we have learnt from this 行愿茶会.】

妍倩 《十大愿王10》心得报告

After watching the video clip #10, realized that death is not the end of our journey. Life can be infinitely.

From the six key messages, i.e. Value, Meaningful, Living, Fact, Goals and Direction, it made me self-reflection today:

·         Know what I want in this life.

·         Do the necessary while still alive.

·         Court my blessings everyday.

·         Easily let go, no matter what situation.

·         Manage myself well at all times.

【It is good we make self reflection every time. Then, we make action to realize them.】

妍倩《十大愿王07》心得报告

Understand that we need to serve Buddha with our full heart, instead of serving with props. When serving, our mindset and languages are very important. 

Earlier I used to notice that some people appeared to do the giving only in front of Buddha or inside the temple / at charity venue.  Also realized that some of us may expect the return when doing the giving.  

Since I started learning Buddhist teaching, realize most importantly is “wisdom”.

【What is the big question (疑情）to grow your wisdom?】

妍蒨《十大愿王08》心得报告

Last few weeks Saturday conducted full day training for my Client.

Initially performance was pretty good if conducted by myself. However, last Saturday was not performed well when first time doing together with another person without any rehearsal.

The next day morning, called to my colleague and asked for feedback. After listening attentively on the feedback for one hour, I acknowledged my weak points and can conclude that my heart can actually determine my performance.

Now started realise that the success of training is not only depends on subject knowledge and presentation skills only. Noticed that when my heart and mind are peaceful/calm, I can do a great training.

For next training onwards, I must firstly let my heart and mind in a peaceful/calm before starting any training.

【Realizing own weakness and make through is very good, but willing to listen feedback from others and keep improving is the best.You are lucky to have someone point out your weakness】

妍蒨 《十大愿王06》心得报告

When recalled the Master teaching, i.e. we must do after our thinking, however, we choose to keep thinking and did not take any action. We may also try to find lots of excuses for not taking action.

In 2018 Chinese New Year, thought of arranged one gathering with old friends as we hardly met each other due to work commitment. However, I hold-on my ideas and did not given this as a priority. 

After a few months, one friend text me in the morning and informed me that our friend had just passed away on Wesak Day. Until today, I was so regretted that I should organize the new year gathering. First time lost my good friend and the feeling was so down especially when seeing my friend lied down in a long wooden coffin, although understand that we must accept the fact.

Since then, I kept reminding myself, time wait for no man. We must do it immediately our thought or wish.  Sometimes, we can wait, but others cannot wait for us.

【When we have learnings from the happenings, we'll appreciate life and apply 3C from moment to moment.】

妍蒨《十大愿王04》心得报告

碰到这逆境时，应心生感激，这是可遇不可求啊！就像昨天Jan 3, 2019)，第一次要面对再站起来，用双脚走路的过程，实在是毕生难忘。

我终于觉悟：四肢健全不是永恒。从来不曾珍惜过，也不曾会想到，也许有一天会失去我身体的某个部位。觉悟的立场，看一切因缘都是缘。

我从六个星期的逆中，学会活在当下，不要想的太过复杂。真正修行的人是不烦恼，是能够解决烦恼。

在医院，第一次做物理化疗，我扶着拐杖，在那里足足站了五分钟，居然不能向前踏出一步 。 医师也跟我一起站了五分钟 ，也忍不住的轻声问我： [ 怎 么 还 不 走 呢 ？ ]

我看着我的双脚，力不从心，终于很无奈，也很难过地说：[我真的不知道该怎么走路？

是否应该先从左脚或者是右脚起步呢？] 。 心想，才短短的日子里，我已经完全忘记人类是怎样走路了。我刚才的问题是我这一生中从来不曾想过的问题。

当下的我，决定不想太多，一步一脚， 很专注地向前走，走着，走着，心很踏实。

在第四课的视频里，提到：[不要制造烦恼的 DNA，拒绝烦恼的 DNA。] 我开始学习，提醒自己不要去制造任何烦恼，别想自己几时才能像正常人走路。 虽然知道起初走到像godzilla, 到一个小时后 , 走到变成像鸭子。

现在承担我右脚的痛，一步一脚印的走下去，让自己早日康复，可以多多行善。在未来的日子里，一定要知富，惜福和造福。

【对了，不用想太多，该踏出去的时候就踏吧！】

妍蒨《十大愿王03》心得报告

现在已是深夜3：35凌晨， 第一次坐在轮椅上，在医院的某一个角落反省着在十七个小时前，我早上竟然在移民厅的公共厕所的门口把自己给摔到了。

想到这里，我才发现到一直以来我都是惯性的要在一天里，拼命的想要把手头上所有的急事给做完。结果在快步行走的时候，总是想着下一步要做的事情，想着下个星期要做的工作，不停的想着将来和还没发生的事情。

在第三课的视频里，提到修行要把心安在这里，要很扎实，不踏空。不要让我们的生命空过，要让我们的生命活在念念当中。
现在的我开始思考这个问题：『如何活在当下，如何让自己活得很真？』。
我总结了一下三点：
            1.        要有真能量（不要胡思乱想）
            2.        只要做好当下要做的事情
            3.        随遇而安

【保持这份疑情，透过每一天的拜惭来提醒自己，生活会变得不一样。】

妍蒨《十大愿王02》心得报告

我们终其一生奋斗，都是为了让自己过上想要的理想生活。而每一个人内心都有一个属于自己的理想，指标，来衡量一生的成就。每个人所追求的生活状态和方式都不相同，但是我很肯定只要我们可以学菩萨的精神，我们就能活得更自在，让每天离理想更近一些。

比如：普贤行愿品：我们可以修十种广大行愿。

西班牙的大学教授一百岁，读过四万册书。当人问起他：『你最尊敬的是谁？』他回答：『是释迦牟尼佛』，唯一的原因是 『智慧』。在第二课的视频里，提到关于生死的真相，我们常常以为『死』还有很遥远。当学佛的人，要时时刻刻想到我们死的那一刻，在呼吸最后一口气的时候，我们是否真的没有遗憾？。所以我们要有智慧和悲心的行愿，利益他人，那么我们就会不悔此生。

【学习菩萨的精神要用在生活，胜读万卷书。愿能看见您用在生活上的分享。】

妍蒨《十大愿王01》心得报告

以前总是要求身边的人要像我一样把事情做好，是不允许，或不接受别人做错事。

现在的我，开始会先要求自己做到最好，而不是要求别人做到最好，只要知道对方已经真的尽力了。

在第一课的视频里，其中一个问题是：[什么事情是让你最开心的？]答案: [向外无所求，向内无所得，就是最开心的事情。]

这个答案，给我很大的启示。

我们在做着每一件事情的时候，不可以有得失之心。

只要每天把事情做好， 日子由一天天组成，我们不能总是要求别人，而不要求自己，这样什么事情也做不好，也弄到不开心。也许这道理很多人都懂，但是最后也没把生活过明白。

让我们丢弃旧的模式来面对每一个新的时刻，诚恳的过属于自己的每一天。

【希望看见您的故事，分享关于得失之心给您的启发。】