After watching the twelve video teaching by Venerable, I learned
more on how to handle my emotion when dealing with my family and working
subordinate. I learn that in the family, I should not talk with them with
the negative reasoning fact and should not have high expectation on my children
study or sport game activities. I should give more encouragement and
support for children. For example, my daughter has made mistake in her golf
game, I should not scold her for not playing well in the game. I should encourage
and coach her to be practice more and improve the golf technique for her next
golf game. I should show to her that the golf game is just a game for fun and
she should enjoy it. I should let her learn that is fine with the
mistake and she should learn from the mistake. She should enjoy the
game and learning new things every time she plays any sport game. On the other
hand with my subordinate, I should do more encouragement and guideline for
their work. I should show good working example. I should not be too perfection
and is very hard for the team to follow me. I should not set too high
expectation for them and I should set realistic achievable goals or target for
them to meet the target. I should encourage teamwork and giving them
confident in the work to bring more business to the company. This will
help the subordinate morale and also, they will feel be part of the team in the
company.
Finally, I should have let go the high expectation and negative
thought in myself and should not think too much for anything I do in my
life. I should do it with my open heart and with love and compassionate in
whatever I do with my family, my subordinate and my friend.
【Try to change "I should" to "I start doing...",
you may see the difference. 】